Hi! I am Ashley. I blog at http://www.sorrykid.blogspot.com/. I have 5 kids, yes you read that right, and am pregnant with number 6- I know I know, I am an overachiver...Ha, if you know me that is far from the truth. Anyway, I am toning it down a little for you today. Grab a cup of coffee and pretend I am sitting across the table.
Blog Friends Vs Real Friends
Real people, you know, it is a hodgepodge. Some people are awesome, most are fake. You don't ever really know what is going on in someone's life unless you are a freak and creep around looking in windows or they are oversharers on Facebook. Which I have seen way too often, every cold or sprained ankle makes the newsfeed and when their kid actually makes a doodie in the toilet the picture of the load in the bowl is being paid to be promoted. But in general, real feelings aren't being put out there. Real thoughts are kept in, the courage to type them is smothered by fear of what people really think of them.
Being a blogger isn't just about the courage it takes to publish the real story, it is about building friendships. I have been so lucky to find a group of women who are supportive and want just as good for me as themselves. That doesn't happen very often, as most women are so judgmental that if you would say your real thoughts you would be outed from the group. They take nothing less than perfection. Sometimes real life is sad, and people in your real life may care (family not included, they almost always care) or they may run away, because broken is not on their checklist on hand made paper with perfect calligraphy. Those people suck. We don't like them, the pretty well-dressed Martha Stewart's can just go to hell.
Anyway, having made these friendships is like getting a second chance at High School, but we all don't care what you wear (we dig the homeless chic look too) and the level of our friendship doesn't depend on who we are dating (unless it's Adam Levine, and then we will hate you). We care about each other because we want to, not because of the numbers next to their name. This blogging community has made many of us feel normal for the first time in our lives. We now know that other people are just as random as us and we won't be compared to the Duggars for having a few more than the average number of children. (Even though mine now is going through a metro phase and thinks he should dress up ALL THE TIME. Seriously, he looks like he should be carrying a Bible and knocking on doors.) Anyway you get it, we have a community of friends...blah blah. So when one of us gets dealt a shit hand you know we are going to come together and do what we can, write. So you may be seeing more of me- lucky you, right? Until next time, I am going to sit on my couch and give the kids a nickel a piece to rub my feet and look up home remedies for Peanut...